When you were 1 year old, she fed you and bathed you,
You thanked her by crying all night long.
When you were 2 years old she taught you to walk,
You thanked her by running away when she called.
When you were 3 years old she made all your meals with love,
You thanked her by tossing your plate on floor.
When you were 4 years old she gave you some crayon,
You thanked her by coloring the dining room table.
When you were 5 years old she dressed you for the holidays,
You thanked her by plopping into the nearest.
When you were 6 years old she walked you to school,
You thanked her by screaming "I am not going."
When you were 7 years old she bought you a baseball,
You thanked her by throwing it through the next-door-neighbor's
When you were 8 years old she handed you an
You thanked her by dipping it all over your lap.
When you were 9 years old she paid for your piano lessons,
You thanked her by never even bothering to practice.
When you were 10 years old she drove you all day,
from soccer to gymnastic to one birthday party to another,
You thanked her by jumping out of car and never looking back.
When you were 11 years old she took you and your friends to the
You thanked her by asking to sit in a different row.
When you 12 years old she warned not to watch certain TV shows,
You thanked her by waiting until she left the house.
When you were 13 she suggested a hair cut,
You thanked her by telling her she had no taste.
When you were 14 she paid for a month away in summer camp,
You thanked her by forgetting to write a single letter.
When you were 15 she came home from work
looking for a hug,
You thanked her by having your bedroom door locked.
When you were 16 she taught you how to drive her car,
You thanked her by taking it every chance you could.
When you were 17 she expected an important call,
You thanked her by being on the phone all night.
When you were 18 she cried at your high school graduation,
You thanked her by staying out parting until dawn.
When you were 19 she paid for your college tuition drove you to
campus carried your bags,
You thanked her by saying good-bye outside the dorm so you wouldn't
be embarrassed in front of your friends.
When you were 20 she asked whether you were seeing anyone,
You thanked her by saying "It is none of your business."
When you were 21 she suggested certain careers for your future,
You thanked her by saying "I don't want to be like you."
When you were 22 she hugged you at your college graduation,
You thanked her by asking whether she could pay for a trip to Europe.
When you were 23 she gave you furniture for your first apartment,
You thanked her by telling your friends it was ugly.
When you were 24 she met your fianc√© and asked about your plans for
You thanked her by glaring & growling "Muuuuther Please."
When you were 25 she helped to pay for your wedding and she cried and
told you how deeply she loved you,
You thanked her by moving half way across the country.
When you were 30 she called with some advice on baby,
You thanked her by telling her "things are different now."
When you were 40 she called to remind you of a relative's birthday,
You thanked her by saying you were "really busy right now."
When you were 50 she fell ill and needed you to take care of
You thanked her by reading about the burden parents become to their
And one day she quietly died and everything you never did come
crashing down like thunder on your heart.
go to top
from Swami Vivekananda
I had a friend who grew to be
very close to me.
Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she
filled the palm of her hand with some water and held it before
me, and said this:
"You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It
This was how I saw it:
As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to
remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt
to close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will
spill through the first cracks it find. This is the greatest
mistake that people do when they meet love...they try to posses
it, they demand, they expect... and just like the water spilling
out of your hand, love will retrieve from you. For love is meant
to be free, you cannot change its nature. If you love, allow
them to be free beings.
Give and don't expect.
Advise, but don't order.
Ask, but never demand.
It might sound simple,
but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice.
It is the secret to true love. To trulypractice it, you must
sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet
GIVE an unconditional caring.
go to top